KARACHI: There are many couples who are in deeply unsatisfying relationships, but are together for the sake of it or because “at least he/she isn’t emotionally or physically abusive”. But there are other things that make a relationship toxic and we’re going to talk about them today.
1. You’re not yourself
If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re constantly trying to control who you really are and what your likes/dislikes are, then it’s time to say goodbye. A relationship should enhance your personality, not suppress it.
2. It’s a one way street
You aren’t doing anybody any favours by constantly being a doormat. If your significant other doesn’t care about your needs as much as you care about theirs, it’s time to let go.
3. You avoid each other
Sometimes when you’ve been with one person for too long and the relationship has become empty, a couple may find that they’re spending a little too much time apart, on purpose. You’re busy with your friends, they’re busy with work all the time – not the ideal situation for a healthy relationship.
4. There is lack of communication
This could be due to several reasons; either you’re scared to speak because it almost always leads to a fight, or because you simply aren’t interested in communicating your feelings to each other anymore because you can’t be bothered. Either way, lack of communication between a couple always leads to distance between the two and even if you don’t end things yourself right away, that is where your relationship is headed.
5. You always feel drained around them
A relationship should give you energy, albeit not 24/7 but for the most part. However, if you’re feeling physically and mentally drained around your partner, then revisit your relationship and see if there’s a problem you’re ignoring.
6. You feel unhappy
Life is too short to be in unhappy relationships. If you’re not happy anymore, don’t cheat or make things worse. Just end it.
This story is part of a series, Young Love, which is updated weekly. Read the previous entry here