KARACHI: Are you a woman who can step out of your house and protest for the state to give you your due rights? Not in Pakistan, you cannot. Pakistan has already given you all the rights you need as women.
We put women on a higher pedestal, they are queens within our homes, which is why we do not allow them to step out of the house. However, that is not all. Here are some things that set women in Pakistan apart from women everywhere else, but mind you, it is only because of how much we respect our women that we cannot allow them to do these things to themselves:
Take a walk at a beach
Are you proud of living in a coastal city? “Karachi meri jaan” because we have what Lahore and Islamabad lack i.e., A thoroughly polluted beach? It does not matter if you are a woman because chances are, even if you live by the coastal belt in Karachi, you will not be very fond of visiting Seaview. That is because of the abundance of respectful gazes from the male folk that will envelop you until you decide it was a bad idea. Some other men in attendance might take things a step further by being vocal with their sweet nothings while many would be willing to personally escort you home giving you the feel of a convoy as they surround your vehicle with their motorbikes. During this time, remember, they are only doing this because they respect you.
Take a walk anywhere at all
Unless you live inside a gated community, men will exhibit similar behavior as they see you walking around, minding your own business. Your clothes do not matter. Regardless of what you wear, they care and their ogling is simply a sign that they want you to head back home, so “other” men do not do something that might, in turn, cause these men to victim blame and gaslight you for suffering from a crime.
Break things off with a partner you find toxic
Why would you find a man toxic in the first place? He is superior, hence should have the upper hand in the relationship. Kill yourself if that makes him happy. Cook, clean, and deal with his problems because this is what you’ll get. Divorce is out of the question. You should count your blessings. However, just in case he does kill you at some point, we will proceed to ask YOU as to why did you not leave sooner? Why did you not see the red flags? Why were you with him in the first place? Because we, people who you have never met in your life, know what works for you as a woman.
We will ensure your screams do not exceed the four walls of the house, even if you do make it out of your torture cell by any chance, we will stand still like statues until you are dragged back to be killed.
If you have been killed and we come face to face with your culprit, like this reporter from the tweet below who met Zahir Jaffer, instead of asking why he killed you we’ll ask them if you were his girlfriend. That is a more important question.
You have done it. You have brought dishonor upon yourself and your family. You now must die because by killing you, they give you and their families the respect that you tarnished. For them, the video where you were singing to a song and smiling because you had people listening to you, and admiring what you do, was shameful. You do not see it yet, but it was.
Wear what you feel comfortable in
Your body must be covered, for respect. It may be a body given to you from a higher power, but still, men in Pakistan have all their rights to tell you to respect it as women. It is because they respect your body so much, that should you not adhere to what the standard code of clothing has been set by Pakistani men, you are entitled to be liberated from that body for not respecting it enough.
Nina Aziz, a young woman in Islamabad who was beheaded by servants for “being too modern” is just the example you need to understand how much your body, as a woman, is respected.
Serve cold food
By asking men to heat their own food, you have attacked the loving, worth treasuring family system we have here in Pakistan. Now, your family life is ruined because men were not sent down to heat up their food. They are the ones that bring money (mostly because they do not allow you to earn) and then you – a woman – must turn that money into food. A simple division of labour that keeps confusion and unlearning anything toxic at bay. Should you refuse:
If you have been wronged, firstly you cannot be. Chances are, you brought upon yourself any occurrence of something that you are now being very vocal on social media about. This society will take none of it, and gaslight and victim-blame the living daylights out of you. The court cases will be rejected because our archaic legal system, which was set up during the British Raj has not yet been put under consideration for an evolution. If your case is dismissed for the category you opted for, the media will turn it into something else, and the entire public will believe the dismissal of your case has been on grounds of merit.
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In conclusion, my fellow women, why would you chant for your rights when Pakistan has bestowed upon you all that you need?